On Sunday, We Smile

It has been a stressful, exciting, wild week or so. Between all of the bathroom renovations (more updates to come, I promise), and the Supreme Court's ruling on marriage equality, the emotions have been running just below the surface - and frequently bubbling over.

And, with all that in mind, I thought I'd share some things that have made me happy this week.

This Cake Wrecks post about Rainbow Cakes (interestingly, no mention is made of gay marriage - it's just about rainbows on cakes): http://www.cakewrecks.com/home/2015/6/28/sunday-sweets-rainbow-connection.html

This posting from Buzzfeed about a bunch of really big companies that decided to show their support for same-sex marriage by putting their rainbows where their money is: http://www.buzzfeed.com/jarrylee/love-wins#.wy1QmEJ1d

Seeing all of the happy people posting on social media, or on the news, or pretty much anywhere.

Being able to spend Twin Cities Pride weekend hanging out with Christopher - on Thursday as we went to a one-woman show put on by Lily Tomlin, yesterday while we were shopping for shrubbery, and today as we've been hanging out at home before heading out to dinner with good friends.

And, finally, this photo of our dog (who doesn't really care about politics or rainbows), and who napped over my shoulder while I worked from home on Wednesday:

I hope your Sunday has been smile-y, as well.

Living Life As... Myself

There is a new Mazda ad on TV where a young guy gets a new car, and then we watch him get different Mazdas as the ad goes along. He takes one to college. He drives one away from his wedding. He drives his kids around in one.

Then, at the end, he gets a new car and the voiceover says that he should celebrate feeling a little more like himself.

The ad bothers me every time I see it. I don't know if it did the very first time. I probably thought it was kind of sweet, you know?

But then I started to think about that final line and realized that this guy has apparently lived his whole life not being himself. According to the ad, he was himself when he was young, single, and owned a convertible. Then, after that, he had to become someone else to get married and have kids. Only getting into a new car - alone - and driving away allowed him to feel like himself.

And, yeah, that makes me sad. For him.

It's kind of like the people who are absolute hell to work with for 8 hours every day, but then you get told that they're "totally different - really fun" outside of work. That means that for at least 1/3 of their lives they're... someone else? What is the point in that?

On this Friday of Pride Week in Minneapolis - and on the day that the Supreme Court ruled that same-sex marriage is the law of the land - I would have to say that I spend pretty much my whole life being me.

That's how I was raised. I was raised to be myself and to be happy with that. Okay. Yes. I'm also a Gemini, which means that there may or may not be multiple sides of me that not everyone knows, but they are all very much me. I don't need to drive away from my daily life in a new car to find out who I am.

And as much as I would love a new car, I'm perfectly happy with the everyday me.

Calendaric Irony

Christopher and I share an online calendar to keep track of what we're doing in our lives. Typically, there's a lot of slightly work-related events. And a dinner or two.

Honestly, we don't feel like an overly social couple. We're almost always at home in the evening - and in bed asleep by around 10. We watch too much TV. We like hanging out with the dog.

Yet... In the past couple of weeks, we've scheduled two events in August (6 or 7 weeks from now), because we simply couldn't coordinate our schedules with the people we're meeting up with. I said to someone today "We should do dinner" and then realized that I have no idea when I can do that.

I usually can't think of anything I'm doing in the next week, yet suddenly I know what I'm doing nearly two months from now.

I have no idea what is going on. I mean... when I look at the calendar I have a very good idea of what is going on, I just don't know where it all came from.

Calendaric irony. It's weird.

Maybe I Could Send Out Cards...?

I have a ton of photos on my camera to document the changes in the bathroom. Seriously. 

But my camera and computer only talk to each other via a cable. 

I went to find that cable Friday night, and found a battery charger and my phone charger. No connecting cable. 

Have I mentioned that - along with the basement bathroom being ripped up, a bunch of my stuff has been kind of re-positioned, lately? 

I have a really good idea where the cable is. I hope to find it tomorrow, and get new photos up. 

Of course, I also hope to win the lottery. 

And reclaim my sanity. 

Honestly? All things considered, I guess I'll bet on the cable. 

Basement Bathroom Reno, Part 5 - Dust Starts to Clear

You might remember that in the last post about the renovation I showed you how much of the basement is currently "walled off" by plastic sheeting. Well, we did that for two reasons: concrete dust and drywall dust. 

In the past photos, you've seen how they jackhammered out part of the floor to work on some of the pipes. Well, now you can see why we were worried about the drywall dust. 

(For the record, these photos were taken a little over 2 weeks ago... I'm a little behind on updating you because I was worried about jinxing the process.)

When drywall (sheetrock, technically, I think) goes up, it is a multi-step process. The sheets are screwed into the studs, then there is a "tape" applied to the seams. Then everything is "mudded" to glue it all together. 

So far, that doesn't really cause too much dust - unless the person doing it is mixing it all too fast, and then it does the whole "turning the mixer on too high with flour in it" thing. The dust comes in the next day, when the mud all gets sanded down. Even with all of our precautions, there was still a fine coating of dust on pretty much the entire house by the time all was said and done. 

But enough with the words, here are some pictures: 

It's my new shower! Or at least 2 walls of it. Like the bulb hanging from the ceiling? Sadly, that's almost what it was like in the old configuration - a bare floodlight was simply in the ceiling above the shower...

The wall where the toilet and sink will go. The washer and dryer are on the other side of the wall - thankfully no longer visible!

It's my slightly-larger window! And - you can sort of see it in this picture, but you kind of have to know what to look for - there is now a raised section of ceiling, so that there is more window visible. (The old ceiling came about halfway down the window.) If you scroll back up to the first photo, you'll see how much extra height we get.

If I can remind myself to transfer photos from my camera, I'll try to get you a bit more up to speed in the coming days.

SCOTUS Watch 2015

I had kind of forgotten, for a while, that the Supreme Court is supposed to be delivering its ruling in the "marriage equality" case (Obergefell v Hodges) this month.

Then, a couple of days ago, it started showing up on social media, because there is a chance that the ruling will come down tomorrow.

Here's the thing, though: Minnesota already recognizes gay marriages, so this shouldn't matter, right? I should just keep going on about my life and be fine.

But it does matter, because my home state of South Dakota - right "next door," where my parents still live, and where Christopher and I go for holidays - doesn't allow gay marriage. And they not only don't allow them, but they don't recognize them from other states. So even if we were married (according to Minnesota), if I went home for Christmas with Christopher and got in a car accident and was taken to the hospital, there's a good chance that he could be denied access to me.

So... Okay... I obviously want the Supreme Court to rule in favor of marriage equality tomorrow. If nothing else, it would put our standards in line with Canada and Mexico, and - ironically, considering how many people say it's against their religion - a number of other really religious countries (like Ireland, Brazil, France, and Spain) who have already legalized gay marriage.

And I don't think I'm alone. After all, most of the states in the country have already gone that way. Check out the really cool timeline/infographic on this page: http://www.mtv.com/news/interactive/marriage-equality-map/, if you want to see how things have changed in just the past decade.

But, since I wanted to be prepared, I thought I'd look into the other possibilities.

Worst case scenario: The Supreme Court rules in favor of bans. This would mean that the 14 states with bans (including those involved in the lawsuit before the Court) would stand, and that states where marriage equality is the law could see that right jeopardized.

Middle case scenario: The Supreme Court rules that bans are okay, but that those states have to recognize marriages from other states. This would be a step up from my current situation when I travel to South Dakota, because although I would be in a weird kind of limbo, relationship-wise, when I'm there, at least a marriage certificate would be binding.

Best case scenario: The Supreme Court rules that the bans are unconstitutional and that marriage equality should be the law of the land. This would mean that, nationwide, same-sex marriages could take place, and would be recognized from state to state.

That sounds kind of amazing, doesn't it? I mean... Even though a number of the states having issues with gay marriage are already mounting legal battles against it, it would still be pretty great. (After all, state governmental officials who have been quoted as saying things like "The Supreme Court isn't the law of the land" can't maintain that stance for long, can they?)

I guess what I'm trying to say is that I know we've come a really long way. And I'm thrilled that we are where we are.

So tomorrow I'll be watching the news and trying to see what's going on. I'll be anxious. I'll be nervous. Hopefully I'll be excited by the outcome. (Let's face it, I'll probably tear up, no matter what.) And then I'll silently thank everyone who came before to work for equality, and consider how far we still need to go - next week, after we celebrate for a bit.

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UPDATE: No ruling today (6/18/15), so we'll keep waiting and watching...

Dreaming of Bathrooms

Two of my friends have said, recently, that they occasionally dream of bathrooms.

One of them said she recently dreamed that she was building a bathroom where the privacy walls were made of bookshelves.

The other said that she typically has nightmares about searching for bathrooms, which often seem to be "from hell."

I, on the other hand, dream of a new bathroom when I'm awake these days. Happily, we seem to be getting closer to that dream becoming a reality as the days go by.

More photos to come, soon.